Actively Still: Complimenting Character

Week 4

In order to find your future GODLY spouse, you must be completely lost in Christ.

       Finding a husband or wife is near the top of the list for most people, but as Christians, should never be number one. Frustration can overtake those who feel like they’ve been single for way too long, but an important question to ask yourself is this: Are you who the person you’re looking for is looking for? Andy Stanley, pastor and author, talks about this in depth in his talk entitled THE NEW RULES FOR LOVE, SEX & DATING that I encourage you to listen to here. But to ask this in a more tangible way: if your ideal Godly future spouse were to see you now, would they pursue you?

This goes back to the age old saying, “You have to be a friend, to have a friend.”

       If you want a Godly woman, you need to be a Godly man and vice versa. It is easy to pick and choose what we do and don’t want in a spouse, but are the things we want the same things we are working on to achieve? Whether it be financial, familial or spiritual, we need to make sure we aren’t painting a picture that we don’t complement. Is a financially secure woman going to pursue a relationship with a man who doesn’t know what a savings account is? Is a man with strong familial ties going to pursue a woman who doesn’t place value in family at all? Is a Godly man or woman going to pursue a relationship with a person who isn’t actively seeking the Lord?

       I’m not talking about having to be a complete replica of each other, that would be disturbing, let’s be honest. I’m talking about aspects of your character complimenting those of your future spouse. Most likely, there is going to be a LONG list of things that are different between you and your spouse. However, favorite color and Starbucks drink isn’t what I’m referring to here.

       Your character must reflect that of Jesus Christ if you want to truly seek out a Godly spouse. When your character becomes more and more like Christ, the people you find attractive are going to reflect that as well. Opposites may attract, but for the most part we tend to seek out relationships with people who are similar to us.

In order to find your future spouse, you have to find yourself in Christ first.

       Next week we start to unfold what the heck Actively Still means and why it’s the title of this series. I’m excited to reveal my thought process behind these posts as we close up this series in the next couple of weeks!

Until next week,

Ariana